Michael, I believe no such thing. If a man berate and belittle his wife in private, do you really intend to claim that this is utterly divorced from his public interactions? Humans aren’t like that. We compartmentalize with difficulty, and often enough the attempt to do so creates consequential problems of its own. Your Olympian vision of adulthood is, I think, rarely and imperfectly achieved; our inner 8th grader (and for that matter sophomore) never entirely goes away and on occasion manages to seize the reins. Bob has read me precisely.

Besides, the “you just enjoy keeping people from having fun” argument is childish; I get it from my 8th grade daughter frequently enough (which is to say, way too frequently).

We can’t compartmentalize our lives, which is why the holiness that I see in the same-sex couples I know has prompted me to rethink the question/

Daniel:

Another perspective to your comment

which is why the holiness that I see in the same-sex couples I know has prompted me to rethink the question

can be found in True Union in the Body? which was commissioned some years ago by Abp. Gomez.  That Paper stated:

4.27 Having said this, it must be acknowledged that important ‘goods’ can be discerned in same-sex relationships (as indeed in some illicit forms of heterosexual relationships).  Something is wrong when the Church refuses to acknowledge that two people in a same-sex relationship may well find they ‘grow steadily in fidelity and in mutual caring, understanding and support…and achieve great, even heroic sacrifice and devotion’.  The fact that certain human practices are not wholly devoid of good is, however, not in itself sufficient warrant for the Church to confer legitimacy upon them or commend the practice itself (just as the existence of ‘honour among thieves’ does not legitimate the practice of theft). If the Church refuses to confer legitimacy, this is not to deny that such ‘relationships may have moral integrity in varying degrees without the Church’s formal authorization’.  The act of blessing same-sex unions, however, would be tantamount to saying that these good qualities are displayed in homosexual relations as homosexual relations. But this we cannot do. If the Church were to say this, then it would be failing to speak the truth in love according to Scripture and the Christian Tradition.